How To Say No When You Don’t Want to Say the Word
Last year, Meghan Trainor released a song called “No.” The lyrics are, “My name is NO. My sign is NO. My number is NO. You need to let it go.” In this anthem of empowerment, Ms. Trainor clearly asserts her boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible fences we build around ourselves to maintain balance and protect […]
Is Your Child Ready for the Future?
Have you noticed that modern parenting advice seems to carry a tone of urgency? From the time kids are toddlers, parents are told that they must prepare their children for the future. The message is “If you don’t get your child into the right school and “enrichment” activities, your child is very likely to fall […]
Allowing Your Feelings to Flow
Every once in a while, I have a client whose struggle or pain reflects my own struggle. For example, about 24 hours after I had to put my cat to sleep, a client called requesting an immediate session because she had to put her dog to sleep. This week, I have a patient whose […]
Summer is the Perfect Time to Grow
July really is the sweet spot of summer for me. It’s a season of growth, not just in the garden, but in my personal life as well. My kids are at sleep away camp, which frees up a lot of time. All this free time allows me the luxury of dreaming about the future and […]
Revolution, not resolution
A New Year’s resolution is basically a declaration of your intentions. The most common resolutions involve working on yourself: living a healthier lifestyle, being more organized, getting a new job, etc. Here’s the problem: Most of us choose our resolutions from a lack mindset. They are often focused on areas of our lives where we […]
Merry Chrismukkah!
All cultures have their own unique customs regarding the winter holidays, most include giving gifts. The general function is the same: to strengthen bonds between the giver and receiver. That may sound simple, but giving gifts is surprisingly complex, especially between the people who mean the most to us. Giving and receiving from each […]
Are You Always Exhausted?
Have you noticed that feeling exhausted is now the common cold of the human condition? We act like it’s not that debilitating. We pretend it doesn’t really negatively affect the people around us. We think that we don’t have to do anything about it and it will eventually resolve itself. Exhaustion and depletion are not […]
The Freedom We Take for Granted
No matter how crazy and chaotic our country seems right now, we still enjoy amazing freedoms that we take for granted everyday. A cornerstone of our personal freedom is the First Amendment, which protects freedom of speech, press, religion, assembly and petition. Of course, the protection of speech is not absolute. There are specific restrictions including time, place, and manner. […]
Is Your Phone Sabotaging Your Relationships?
We live in a world where we are expected to be almost constantly available to everyone in our social network and work. At the same time, we expect that our partner is interested and engaged when spending time together. This Catch-22 leads to what I call, “digital abandonment.” Digital abandonment occurs when the use of […]
Are You Dealing with More Sh*t Than You Need To?
“I am so sick of wiping this kid’s ass! She’s five years old, for god’s sake. I do everything for these kids and they appreciate none of it,” Ashley said as she walked in. Clearly, Ashley was having a bit of a mommy meltdown. After allowing her to vent until she ran out of breath, […]
