Did you know that self-help books are an 11 billion dollar industry and 80% of buyers are repeat buyers? It is the world’s best-selling genre. Because I promised to save you time and money I’ll get right to the point.
Below is the best self-help book you’ll ever read.
Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost & helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place but this isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter 3: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I fall in because it is a habit but my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Chapter 5: I walk down a different street.
I wish I could take credit for this little bit of genius but it was actually written by Portia Nelsen over 20 years ago.
The street is metaphor for any inner struggle:
- Falling into the same relationship conflict over and over.
- Allowing yourself to be in a constant state of overwhelm.
- Numbing yourself with food, alcohol and screens
The list is endless and there is a book for every problem.
However, as the above describes, there is an easy formula for change:
awareness+personal responsibility+improved action=change.
Simple but incredibly difficult.
The challenge with self help is that you have to be
the person who needs a kick in the pants and the kicker simultaneously.
I am not knocking self-help. It is more accessible, cheaper, more convenient, and more anonymous than meeting with a good therapist or coach. However, most people will not get the results they are hoping for by going it alone.
It can be humbling to ask for help. But, most of us need it.
When you have the right guide, it is a lot easier to
get out of your hole and walk down a different street.