This is how I am processing the results of the election
Last night (November 5, 2024), I decided to pretend that it wasn’t election night. I normally would watch a lot of coverage. Instead, I watched an intense drama (The Diplomat) and a silly movie (Why Him?).
To create a bubble to protect myself, I texted my inner circle the following:
I have seen no coverage of the election since 9 am. I’m going to pretend like it’s not Election Day. Not watching any coverage for as long as I can. It won’t be decided for a while anyway. If it is bad news, I don’t think I can stomach it. Literally and figuratively. I’m not seeing clients tomorrow (as usual). I’m going to tell Matt and my physical therapist that I don’t want to know.
I still haven’t turned on the news. Nevertheless, I get the sense that my candidate did not win.
For the time being, I have decided to remain (mostly) uninformed. This is a big deal for me. I grew up watching the Today show every morning before school with my mom and sister, the news every evening as a family and political shows every Sunday with my dad. It was instilled in me that being informed was part of being a smart, responsible, forward-thinking person who cares about the world around them. It is part of my values system and continues to be part of the rhythm of my daily life.
Have decided to I opt out because self-preservation is more important than being informed.
Right now, I don’t need to experiencethe results of the election. I can know them withoutthe physical and emotional reaction. Right now, I don’t have to worry what things will be like or what will happen. What will be will be.
Radical acceptance and compartmentalizing is not easy but it’s working for now.
Of course, I will listen and help as always, personally and professionally.
But, I’m not going to seek out content that makes my cortisol levels spike. I’m not allowing myself to indulge in a rants with like-minded friends.
Instead, I am going focus that time and attention elsewhere.
First, I will focus inward. I will get really clear and intentional about how I want 2025 to be.
No magic wand. I’m in full acceptance of the truth and the limits of my ability to influence the world around me.
Yes, I feel defeated but, I am not powerless. I am the co-creator of my reality.
Personally, I’m entering a big transition this spring. The beginning of a new chapter for my family.
That deserves my energy and intentional action.
Next, I will shift my outward perspective. I’ve been looking at the big picture for a while now, and the view is not getting any better. I’ve learned that dwelling in the despair that I’ve feeling since October 7th doesn’t bring peace or hostages home. Likewise, dwelling in anger and righteous resentment about our country’s leadership is not good for me and not helping anyone connected to me.
Time to narrow my focus. I will clarify what causes matter most to me and determine how can I contribute locally and meaningfully.
I’m not telling anyone else what to feel or think or do.
Your perspective and feelings are valid and I support you.
I’m just making these choices for my own well-being.
