4 June

Self-Awareness

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Self-Awareness

When it comes to truly taking command of your life, an understanding of what helps you feel aligned is key. In my last post, I discussed the difference between control and command. Here, we’ll dive in to the value in being self-aware and how that plays an integral part in the personal growth process.   […]

6 May

Control Vs. Command

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Control Vs. Command

A good therapist doesn’t have all the answers.  She knows the right questions to ask. A few months ago, a fellow psychotherapist and coach posed the question, “Do you want to be in control or do you want to be in command?” That’s what I call a THINKER! It almost sounds like a riddle or […]

2 April

Battling Mental Blocks

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Battling Mental Blocks

Do you have trouble making decisions? People who have trouble making decisions tend to overthink everything.  Many struggle with mental blocks even in the most benign everyday situations. I have a good friend who spends way too much energy making even the smallest decisions.  A perfect example is when we try to make dinner plans. […]

28 February

Understanding Meta-Emotion

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Understanding Meta-Emotion

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw “We don’t communicate,” is the #1 reason that couples seek help. Usually, each partner blames the other for not “getting it”. Blaming someone else for your own dissatisfaction is a roadblock in general.  However, when it comes […]

10 October

Embracing the Awkwardness

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Embracing the Awkwardness

A childhood friend recently posted a photo on Facebook of our “girl squad” from middle school. As I looked at the expression on my face, it was clear how unsure I felt at the time. I had a visceral memory of how uncomfortable it was to trying to join this group of girls who already […]

4 September

The 6 Self-Care Commandments

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Have you noticed that self-care has become yet another thing we are expected to be good at?  Because we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves, trying to measure up to some version of an ideal person, we have focused on the behavior of self-care and whether or not we have done […]

4 September

The 6 Self-Care Commandments

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The 6 Self-Care Commandments

Have you noticed that self-care has become yet another thing we are expected to be good at?  Because we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to see if we measure up to some version of an ideal person, we have focused on the behavior of self-care and whether or not we […]

2 July

Is Independence Over-Rated?

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Is Independence Over-Rated?

When I think of the Fourth of July, I think of a summer party celebrating the independence of our country from the British Empire. A day filled with fireworks, hotdogs, and spending time with family and friends. But July 4th is not the only time we celebrate independence.  If fact, independence one of the most […]

8 June

What can you let go of?

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What can you let go of?

I was recently reminded of an ancient fable that teaches us about what we hold on to and whether or not that serves us. The story takes place in ancient China where, apparently, there was a monkey problem. To set a trap for the monkeys, the villagers cut a narrow opening into a coconut and […]

8 May

Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

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Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

Don’t you love it when a buzzword perfectly describes your experience! The most recent buzzword that seems to have struck a collective nerve is “mental load.” Mental load refers to all the mental work–the organizing, preparation, and planning etc.–that you do to manage your life, your household and your kids. Mental load is real and […]