4 September

The 6 Self-Care Commandments

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Have you noticed that self-care has become yet another thing we are expected to be good at?  Because we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves, trying to measure up to some version of an ideal person, we have focused on the behavior of self-care and whether or not we have done […]

4 September

The 6 Self-Care Commandments

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The 6 Self-Care Commandments

Have you noticed that self-care has become yet another thing we are expected to be good at?  Because we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to see if we measure up to some version of an ideal person, we have focused on the behavior of self-care and whether or not we […]

2 July

Is Independence Over-Rated?

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Is Independence Over-Rated?

When I think of the Fourth of July, I think of a summer party celebrating the independence of our country from the British Empire. A day filled with fireworks, hotdogs, and spending time with family and friends. But July 4th is not the only time we celebrate independence.  If fact, independence one of the most […]

8 June

What can you let go of?

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What can you let go of?

I was recently reminded of an ancient fable that teaches us about what we hold on to and whether or not that serves us. The story takes place in ancient China where, apparently, there was a monkey problem. To set a trap for the monkeys, the villagers cut a narrow opening into a coconut and […]

8 May

Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

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Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

Don’t you love it when a buzzword perfectly describes your experience! The most recent buzzword that seems to have struck a collective nerve is “mental load.” Mental load refers to all the mental work–the organizing, preparation, and planning etc.–that you do to manage your life, your household and your kids. Mental load is real and […]

8 March

Ready For a Truth Bomb?

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Ready For a Truth Bomb?

I’m having writer’s block. I’ve tried to write something inspiring several times over the past week and it is just not happening. Since I’m not inspired to create, I am writing myself a permission slip.                 When was the last time you gave yourself a permission slip? Maybe […]

6 February

Why Date Night Won’t Save Your Relationship

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I know what you’re thinking. Melissa, isn’t this the exact opposite of what you’ve been encouraging for years now? Yes and no. Yes, date night is important. Unfortunately though, if your relationship is in a negative place, date night is more likely to end with tension than romance and sex. A recent session with a […]

3 January

I Have a Love-Hate Relationship with My Planner

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It is a brand new year! I am bursting with new ideas and goals. One of the first things I do to kick my year off is invest in a new planner. I have spent a lot of time over the years choosing a planner. I even bought and returned several because they weren’t quite […]

5 December

Want to have more fun this holiday season? Hold up your end of the conversation.

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Have you noticed lately that the generic response to “How are you?” has changed from “fine” to “busy”? Whether at a cocktail party or a family gathering, both “busy” and “fine” are kind of non-answers. Neither fosters conversation or connection. So, why do we choose to say “busy” instead of “fine”? “Being busy” makes it […]

6 November

How To Say No When You Don’t Want to Say the Word

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Last year, Meghan Trainor released a song called “No.” The lyrics are, “My name is NO. My sign is NO. My number is NO. You need to let it go.” In this anthem of empowerment, Ms. Trainor clearly asserts her boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible fences we build around ourselves to maintain balance and protect […]