3 September

Do You Run Your Life on Routines or Reactions?


Well, it’s unofficial. Summer is over. Yes, I know that it doesn’t technically end until September 22, but Labor Day weekend is the psychological end of summer. Time to switch gears and get prepared for the school year. Some of us greet the new school year with dread—homework, packed schedules, the days getting shorter and […]

20 July

Allowing Your Feelings to Flow


Every once in a while, I have a client whose struggle or pain reflects my own struggle. For example, about 24 hours after I had to put my cat to sleep, a client called requesting an immediate session because she had to put her dog to sleep.   This week, I have a patient whose […]

11 July

Summer is the Perfect Time to Grow


July really is the sweet spot of summer for me. It’s a season of growth, not just in the garden, but in my personal life as well. My kids are at sleep away camp, which frees up a lot of time. All this free time allows me the luxury of dreaming about the future and […]

3 May

Are You Stuck In Your Own Virtual Reality?


  When I was a teen, my mom used to say to me, “Melissa, you may be wrong but you’re never in doubt.” I never really understood what that meant but I knew she was saying she’d had enough and I should stop trying to convince her that I was right–about everything.   Like most kids, […]

6 April

Is it time to create a “new normal?”


“Sometimes, I wish I was a celebrity,” Lisa said as she walked in to my office. She explained that she wasn’t interested fame or materialism.  She was jealous of the celebrities who were being treated for exhaustion.   Lisa was stuck in a vicious cycle.  She knew intellectually that if she didn’t do something to take […]

9 March

Whew… that was a close one!


As you may know I have been very busy in 2017. In January, I was focused on creating my first webinar, 6 Steps to FEEL in Love All Over Again and February was spent getting to know so many amazing couples who enrolled in my online coaching program The Relationship Roadmap. All of this was […]

7 February

What Do Potholes Have to Do with Your Relationship?


It’s always around this time of year that the winter blues start setting in. It’s dark and cold and most of us just want to hibernate. When we do go out we have to deal with the damage the cold weather leaves behind: potholes. Potholes turn a simple ride to work into a stressful obstacle […]

3 January

Revolution, not resolution


A New Year’s resolution is basically a declaration of your intentions.  The most common resolutions involve working on yourself:  living a healthier lifestyle, being more organized, getting a new job, etc. Here’s the problem:  Most of us choose our resolutions from a lack mindset.  They are often focused on areas of our lives where we […]

6 December

Merry Chrismukkah!


  All cultures have their own unique customs regarding the winter holidays, most include giving gifts. The general function is the same: to strengthen bonds between the giver and receiver. That may sound simple, but giving gifts is surprisingly complex, especially between the people who mean the most to us.   Giving and receiving from each […]

2 November

Are You Always Exhausted?


Have you noticed that feeling exhausted is now the common cold of the human condition? We act like it’s not that debilitating. We pretend it doesn’t really negatively affect the people around us. We think that we don’t have to do anything about it and it will eventually resolve itself. Exhaustion and depletion are not […]