5 Apr 2016

The #1 Question That Brings People to Therapy


Three months ago, Suzanne asked the question that brings most people to counseling: “Is there hope?” She wanted to know if there was hope for her marriage. She and her husband, Jake, just couldn’t see eye to eye anymore. There was a growing sense of disconnection and they didn’t know how to bridge the gap. With […]

1 Mar 2016

When the Waiting Isn’t the Hardest Part


I could see the pain on Gwen’s face before she even spoke. “My fucking father died,” was all she could say before she burst into tears. I have been working with Gwen for a long time so I know why she put it that way. You see, Gwen had a very difficult relationship with her […]

1 Feb 2016

The Day I Almost Cursed at a Buddhist Nun


It was 2009 and I was making my first tentative steps on the path of “wellness.” I needed to take better care of my self and I knew I couldn’t do it alone. So, I joined a coaching group for support and accountability. We met once a month for 3 hours. The leader provided a […]

1 Jan 2016

It Is Time to Step It Up a Notch!


For years, I have recommended a gratitude practice to improve your mood and well-being. It is tool train your mind to focus on the positive, to see the beauty in simple things, to know that every day is a gift. As I said in my last post, a gratitude practice can also help manage feelings […]

2 Dec 2015

When Shoes Don’t Bring You Joy


Do you feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop?  Even when things are going really well, do you feel like it is too good to be true? You’re not alone. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and […]

3 Nov 2015

Are You A True Friend?


The subject of friendship has been coming up in a lot of my sessions: the struggle to make new friends as an adult, the worry that a child is becoming friends with a ‘bad influence,” the hurt feelings of not being invited to a party. In most of these sessions, my patients are longing for […]

1 Oct 2015

What’s worse than PMS? FMGS (False Mother Guilt Sydrome)


Today I was working with a really awesome woman, let’s call her Ann. Ann is a mom of 3 kids under 6 years old (and a puppy to add to the chaos). She is a loving wife. She supports her husband’s career growth, even though it often takes him away from home. Ann chose to put her career […]

1 Sep 2015

What does Spotify Have to Do with Relationships?


Last night, I was doing the super-exciting task of washing the dishes again. As I have mentioned in other posts, when I have more tasks than energy, I use music to help me get the job done. I reach for my phone, open Spotify and see that they have created a new “discover” playlist just for […]

4 Aug 2015

5 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Strong: The Advanced Version


  We know that healthy relationships start with the essential ingredients of love, trust, respect, and shared values. Long relationships are filled with ups and downs.  We often need to move beyond the basics to keep the bond strong year after year. Want to know how? Here are some advanced tips:   In happy unions, partners […]

1 Jul 2015

I Am Breaking My Own Rule on This One


I have never used this platform to endorse a product but I feel I must take a moment to encourage you see the new Pixar movie, “Inside Out”. Now, granted I am a member of their target audience and I expected to like the film. But after seeing it, I was really impressed. Without giving […]