Are You Putting Your Happiness on Hold?
Many of us are waiting for “someday” to be happy: Someday I’ll be happy when I lose the weight. Someday I’ll be happy when I have a better job. Someday I’ll be happy when I can afford the things I want. Someday I’ll be happy when this baby sleeps through the night. Someday I’ll be […]
It’s Never Too Early to Plan the Perfect Day
How do you feel about Mother’s Day? I know it is still a month away but I am asking because year after year I talk to moms who are very disappointed with “their special day.” Here is what the disappointment sounds like: “Ugh! Why do I have to ____________________? It’s my mother’s day too. Shouldn’t […]
What Do Potholes Have to Do with Your Relationship?
Hooray! We made it through February! What a crappy month it was, full of snow, ice, freezing temperatures, school closings, and sick kids. Good riddance! Unfortunately, even after the snow and ice finally melt away, we still have to deal with the damage they leave behind: potholes. I know that potholes are normal this time […]
Want to Feel Closer in Your Relationship? Try This!
Remember the excitement and curiosity at the beginning of a romantic relationship? It was time when countless hours were spent in deep conversations, playing “I’ll tell you mine, if you tell me yours.” The more you shared with each other, the closer you’d feel. This process of mutual sharing created the friendship that supported your budding romance. […]
You Better Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself
Part of my job as a psychotherapist is to examine behavior patterns to determine whether they enhance or disrupt the patient’s everyday functioning. Over the past few years I have been observing a pattern among peers and patients alike that is reaching clinical significance. It seems our use of smart phones is at the tipping point where an […]
I Know Why You’re So Exhausted
I know why you are so exhausted. The reason might surprise you. It isn’t because of the extra effort it takes just to do the simple things this time of year, like buy groceries or park your car. It isn’t because of extra time you spend with your extended family, and the inevitable regression that […]
It Isn’t Hip To Be a Hypocrite
I need to call myself out on a major hypocrisy I have been committing. I have been blindly following the fashionable parenting philosophy that declares, “doing your best” is the ultimate goal and measurement of personal success and happiness. Lately, though, I have been wrestling with this concept, questioning the validity of this value. What I […]
Let’s Put the NO in November!
I don’t know about you, but I am totally inspired by the NYC marathon every year. I am not a runner myself, but I volunteered at the finish line for several years. Watching thousands cross the finish line, I think about all the dedicated hours these runners spent in preparation, culminating in achieving this monumental […]
Are Your Needs Changing?
It’s official. I can no longer deny the fact that my precious baby boys aren’t babies any more. Here is some of the irrefutable evidence that made me accept reality: They are in middle school. They are obsessed with Instagram. They are taller than some of my friends. Just when I think I have this […]
No Excuses Date Night Revolution
I am seeing an alarming trend in modern marriages. It seems the “new normal” is a pattern of benign neglect of the relationship. Sure, we say our loved ones are our first priority but our actions speak louder than words. We focus our energy and attention on never-ending to do lists, fueled by our own unrelenting standards. […]
