Help Is Not a Four Letter Word…Well, You Know What I Mean
Because I am in private practice, my responsibilities extend well past my interaction with clients. I am also my bookkeeper, website designer, administrative assistant, marketing team, writer, IT department, graphic designer etc. On the one hand, I take a lot of pride in the fact that I have created my own website, newsletters etc. It was a new way to express my creativity and, with my new computer, it was easy and kind of fun.
However, I need to make some changes to make them more functional. I won’t get into the technical details but suffice it to say that every time I sit down and to make the necessary changes, I am filled with overwhelm and dread.
Like many of you, I have internalized the messages that it is good to be self-sufficient. Messages like, “If you want something done right you should do it yourself.” Or “if you need help you are admitting you are not as strong, smart, capable etc. as you want to seem.” The message that I really needed to listen to is, “Just because I can figure out how to do it but that does not mean I should.”
I need to balance my impulse to be self-sufficient with the reality that revamping my website is a job for someone else. Now, I have a what most people would consider a valid reason for hiring someone because it is an investment in my business, and after all my training is psychotherapy, not web design or search engine optimization. I am not going to hide behind the shield of work to justify my decision to delegate. My valid reason is that it is no longer my pleasure to do it, it takes time away from my children, and while I could learn the technical skills, every time I sit down to teach myself I feel totally overwhelmed.
Of course, many of our most dreaded tasks cannot be delegated to others. When this is the case, an accountability partner can be just the help we need. An accountability partner is someone who helps by keeping you focused on your goals by checking on your progressSharing your goals and struggles makes the experience less overwhelming and provides an ally to call upon when you are faced with fear, obstacles or setbacks.