10 Sep 2019

Capacity

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Capacity

We live in a time where we have access to limitless information. The things that constantly compete for our attention are limitless as well. The tricky part? We are, in fact, NOT limitless. Our energy has limits, and our time has limits too. We all have 24 hours in a day. That’s it. There are […]

10 Oct 2018

Embracing the Awkwardness

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Embracing the Awkwardness

A childhood friend recently posted a photo on Facebook of our “girl squad” from middle school. As I looked at the expression on my face, it was clear how unsure I felt at the time. I had a visceral memory of how uncomfortable it was to trying to join this group of girls who already […]

8 May 2018

Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

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Has your Mental Load Become Too Heavy?

Don’t you love it when a buzzword perfectly describes your experience! The most recent buzzword that seems to have struck a collective nerve is “mental load.” Mental load refers to all the mental work–the organizing, preparation, and planning etc.–that you do to manage your life, your household and your kids. Mental load is real and […]

3 Sep 2017

Do You Run Your Life on Routines or Reactions?

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Well, it’s unofficial. Summer is over. Yes, I know that it doesn’t technically end until September 22, but Labor Day weekend is the psychological end of summer. Time to switch gears and get prepared for the school year. Some of us greet the new school year with dread—homework, packed schedules, the days getting shorter and […]

6 Apr 2017

Is it time to create a “new normal?”

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“Sometimes, I wish I was a celebrity,” Lisa said as she walked in to my office. She explained that she wasn’t interested fame or materialism.  She was jealous of the celebrities who were being treated for exhaustion.   Lisa was stuck in a vicious cycle.  She knew intellectually that if she didn’t do something to take […]

2 Nov 2016

Are You Always Exhausted?

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Have you noticed that feeling exhausted is now the common cold of the human condition? We act like it’s not that debilitating. We pretend it doesn’t really negatively affect the people around us. We think that we don’t have to do anything about it and it will eventually resolve itself. Exhaustion and depletion are not […]

3 May 2016

Not Enough Time for Self-Care? I’ve Got the Solution for You.

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In social work school, students are taught you don’t need to have the same experience as your clients in order to help them. After all, I have treated plenty of heroin addicts without ever using the drug.   But there is one area where, looking back, I just didn’t get it: parenthood. Until I became […]

1 Jan 2016

It Is Time to Step It Up a Notch!

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For years, I have recommended a gratitude practice to improve your mood and well-being. It is tool train your mind to focus on the positive, to see the beauty in simple things, to know that every day is a gift. As I said in my last post, a gratitude practice can also help manage feelings […]

2 Dec 2015

When Shoes Don’t Bring You Joy

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Do you feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop?  Even when things are going really well, do you feel like it is too good to be true? You’re not alone. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and […]

5 May 2015

Are You Putting Your Happiness on Hold?

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Many of us are waiting for “someday” to be happy: Someday I’ll be happy when I lose the weight. Someday I’ll be happy when I have a better job. Someday I’ll be happy when I can afford the things I want. Someday I’ll be happy when this baby sleeps through the night. Someday I’ll be […]