18 July

Not All Jugglers Are Clowns

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For most mothers, juggling is a fact of life that brings angst rather than awe, guilt rather than giggles.  A friend of mine just had her third child.  The baby is a few weeks old, the middle child is 3 and the oldest is 6.  Needless to say, when I asked her how she was, […]

12 June

It Is Hard To Hug A Cactus

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My clients often ask me, “How can I be happy when someone else is the cause of my unhappiness?”  Or stated less diplomatically, “Why do I have to change when he or she is the crazy one?!” Relying on others to change so that we can be happy inevitably leads to feelings of anger,  helplessness […]

6 May

When You Know Better

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One thing I try to avoid with my kids is hypocrisy.  It is for that reason that I never say to them, “You know better than that!”  Believe me, I feel like saying it on an almost daily basis.  However, I refrain because, the ugly truth is, could also say it to myself just as […]

4 April

Focus on a Simple Solution

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There was recently an article in the New York Times magazine about the process of rumination and its possible evolutionary benefits.  Frankly, I find that for most people, rumination results in feeling of mental and emotional paralysis.  I try to be a solution-oriented person.  There is only so long I can listen to myself complain […]

10 March

Hovering Above Life

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I have practiced yoga for over 12 years now.  I love it for many reasons, not the least of which is that it often teaches valuable lessons for life “off the mat.”  In yoga, you practice the same postures over and over again.  If you are not focused on the present, the NOW, you run […]

2 February

Emerge and See

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In a recent New York Times Magazine article, will.i.am described how he plays with words.  For example, “emerge and see.”   He stated, “To emerge and see what is happening is truly an emergency.” While I like what he is trying to say, I think he has it backward. A mentor once told me that the […]

1 January

The Melancholy Mommy Quiz

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  Below is a series of questions to help determine if you are a Melancholy Mommy.  If you answer “true” to many of these questions, you might want to consider getting help from a licensed professional.  At the very least, discuss how you are feeling with loved ones and friends to get extra support.   […]

1 January

Motherhood: The Toughest Job You’ll Ever Love?

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I have often thought that the motto for the Peace Corps, “The Toughest Job You’ll Ever Love,” might better apply to motherhood.  After all, parenting is truly a labor of love.  It is our responsibility to teach our children to navigate the outside world, both physically and emotionally, from the moment they are born.  From […]

1 January

When Mommy Has The Blues

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I just finished speaking with a friend who doesn’t seem to be herself lately. A dedicated parent of two, my friend is tired all the time but has trouble sleeping.  She either has no appetite or binges on junkfood.  She no longer finds joy in the simple pleasures of life. She feels overwhelmed by her […]